Think With Your Heart (6-Minute Read)

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Connie Pretula

Connie Pretula is an inspiring health coach and Menopause Navigator to mature women, using a holistic approach to nutrition and life.

January 2, 2024

Happy New Year!

I hope you are well and the holiday break was what you had hoped for.

My Christmas and New Year were very quiet this year, I did miss being able to enjoy a nice turkey dinner with all the trimmings. My substitute was picking up a lobster, another benefit of the access we have to products from all over the world.

Having the time to myself allowed me to message friends and family and have some long video calls. Was able to catch up with my Australian bestie and my British bestie. I also had a long call with my niece and grand-niece who live in Australia. Those are the moments I am so grateful for the technology we have to be able to see people from so far away.

One of my other calls was with my dear friend Neal Quon, we haven’t had a call in a few years. We met during my technology days, Neal reminded me that we have known each other for 20 years. I was so surprised, it really doesn’t seem that long and I’m grateful for our friendship. We both laughed and said we were in FinTech before FinTech was as cool as it is today.

The time between Christmas and New Year’s is when I like to reflect on the year. Think about my accomplishments and take a moment to appreciate them. I also think about the challenges I encountered, how I worked through them and did I grow from the experience.

This is a time of year when many people are setting goals or choosing a word or phrase to focus on for the following year.

My words for 2023 were Love and Prosperity. My goal was to approach my life with more love and perhaps find love in the process, even if it was finding more for myself. Prosperity was about increasing the income from my business and about seeing prosperity beyond actual dollars. Life is about perspective.

Recently, a phrase came to mind that I heard in a presentation I attended about 2 years ago. Unfortunately, I don’t remember the name of the presenter. The phrase is “think with your heart and feel with your mind”. 

When I first heard it, I had to stop and take the words in, I thought about how I approach life. When it comes to business, after 34 years in the corporate world, most decisions have been based on logic so I would be using my mind.

Leaving the corporate world and moving into holistic nutrition, I learned to apply logic when it comes to reviewing test results because there are specific parameters, that is the science of nutrition. I also learned to be more heart-focused and to listen beyond what a client is saying. 

The heart is the art.

Industrialization and modernization have made life move at a much faster pace, and it seems it will continue to speed up.

I like to plan my days, that is a corporate habit that will probably always be with me. My calendar helps me stay on track and get things done. It can also put me in “do” mode which is okay but “feel” mode is important as well.

I have a perspective, “do” mode may cause assumptions or frustrations when we interact with people. It may put us in an expectation mindset because we want to complete a task or achieve a certain outcome.

If the other person is not meeting our expectations, then we might react in a less than positive way.

I will admit, I can get frustrated when dealing with a customer service rep, who in my mind, seems to not care or have the level of knowledge I feel they should to support clients. In that moment it is all about me and getting the answers or support I need and move on with my day, time is valuable.

What I’m not thinking about is what that person is going through. Perhaps they are not feeling well or they are dealing with a stressful situation personally. 

I have found many customer service reps have not been given adequate training or support.

I also don’t know how that person is affected by everything that is going on in the world. Some people are more sensitive, I’m one of them and that is why I limit how much news I listen to or read. 

It can be easy to make assumptions about people’s cultures and beliefs. That is thinking with the mind as opposed to the heart. Thinking with the heart could lend itself to having a conversation and asking about their culture or beliefs. Our judgments or assumptions can cause intolerance and conflict. I will be the first to admit, I do not know the history of many cultures and conflicts.

If you have made it this far, you might be thinking, what does this have to do with holistic nutrition? A lot!

All of these little frustrations add up and they increase stress. Unfortunately, most people have become so used to stress, they have no idea how much it is affecting them. The first effect is reduced digestion which is one of our most important functions. Our digestive system supports our body, it is the foundation of our health. Without proper digestion, your body is not receiving the nutrients it needs and will affect every other function in the body, including our brain.

Trust me, I am guilty of not realizing how much stress affects me. That’s why I will continue to repeat the phrase I have chosen for this year, “think with my heart and feel with my mind”.

When I feel that I am not getting the level of service or support I think I should be, it’s up to me to stop and think about the other person and ask more questions rather than assume or lose my temper.

It can be easy to be affected by all of the negative news, the media is so great at that.

My wish for you is, you find ways to disconnect, breathe, and connect with your heart. When my schedule allows, I join a group online called NexGen Health. It is about connection and connecting heart energy. It begins with a short guided meditation led by Dr Mitchell Abrams and then you can stay as long as you want to breathe through the rest of the meditation in silence. Dr Abrams has an amazing story of what led him to do this work and create this community. Click here for the access information I love how I feel after I have participated in a session.

I’m also working on a new course. It will be 5 days, online and focused on increasing energy. I’m calling it, “Get Your Sparkle Back!” Who doesn’t want a bit more sparkle/energy in their life? My goal is to have it ready for the end of January. I will send out updates once I have completed the content.

I can assume what I write about is of interest to you, grin. I truly want to know what topics you would like me to write about. Please, send me an email and let me know.

I will continue to post a blog every two weeks, the next one will be January 16. I do love sharing my perspective so perhaps every other blog will be on topics you want to learn about and the other will be about my perspectives.

I hope 2024 brings everything you are hoping for and dreaming of.

Have a great two weeks and thank you for reading my words.

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